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4 Things To Consider Before The Adoption Process

by Suzanne Mills

A child is a blessing, but many women experience unplanned pregnancies and may either not feel ready to be a mother or is not in a position to grow her family. If you have recently found out that you're pregnant unexpectedly, you may want to consider putting the baby up for adoption. If you feel that adoption is the best choice for you and the baby you're carrying, consider the following things:

Agency or Private Adoption Through a Lawyer

When you choose to put your baby up for adoption, you can choose to either work with an adoption agency or a lawyer who specializes in private adoptions. An adoption agency can assist you in choosing the adoptive parents and also guide you through the entire adoption process. If you already know who will be adopting the baby, a private adoption facilitated through a lawyer may be a better option.

Consent of the Father of the Baby

Before you begin the adoption process, it is in your best interest to have an in-depth conversation with the father of the child and find out how he feels about the adoption. Doing this in advance and getting the father's consent will help ensure that there are no legal issues that can delay the adoption after the child is born.

What You're Looking for in Adoptive Parents

As the birth mother, you have the ability to choose exactly who will be adopting your baby. After deciding that adoption is the best choice for you and baby, take some time to think about what characteristics are important to you when it comes to the adoptive parents. Narrowing down adoptive families can be overwhelming, so having a good idea of what you want will help make the process easier, and you will have the peace of mind of knowing that the baby will be raised by people who meet your criteria. 

Open or Closed Adoption

You will be able to decide whether you want an open or a closed adoption. An open adoption means that you will stay in contact with the adoptive family, and depending on the arrangement made, you may be able to spend time with your child as he or she grows. With a closed adoption, all contact between you and the adoptive family will cease after the adoption becomes official. What type of adoption you would like is a very personal decision.